I finally finished reading the final book of The Hunger Games series, “Mockingjay.” After I read “Catching Fire,” I had to get the third and last book right away. If you haven’t read the series yet, I highly recommend it – it is a total page turner. Plus, the movie will be released next March, and we all know, it’s always better to read the book first.
Without giving too much away, Katniss our heroine has to choose between two guys, and ultimately she does: “What I need to survive is not.. fire. I have plenty of fire myself. What I need is the dandelion in the spring. The bright yellow that means rebirth instead of destruction. The promise that life can go on, no matter how bad our losses. That it can be good again. And only x can give me that.”
It so reminded me of director Mike Nichols’ assessment of Star Wars actress Carrie Fisher’s failed marriage to singer/songwriter, Paul Simon – Nichols called them “two flowers, no gardener.”
So, there we have it. I truly believe that whoever can provide you a balance is your perfect mate… because you cannot have two flowers constantly seeking the sun and attention. Someone needs to tend to the flower, and give them nourishment, fertilizer, and a necessary pruning here and there. If there are two flowers without a gardener, they will only both grow wild and head off-track together.
Of course, in most instances, the flower and the gardener roles will switch off (at least I would hope so). Some days you will be the flower, and other days, you will be the gardener. That’s why I firmly believe you must complement each other – you will have similarities, but yes, you also will and should have differences.
But, you will both grow more beautifully because of it.